Every morning when I sip my coffee I take some time alone to scroll through Instagram.
It’s maybe been ten seconds and I find myself scrunching up my nose and whispering, “how does she get her baby to sleep 12 hours every single night!?”
Or, “How in the world does this mom of three look put together every day when as a mom of one, I struggle to just blow dry my hair most days?”
I know I am not alone in this world of comparing and criticizing ourselves.
It’s just human nature.
No matter how much we talk about it though, why is there such a craving to still show only the glamourous on social media?
You never see the dark circles from night time feedings, from bad dreams that meant a night with a shared bed or just from no sleep at all because your mind won’t shut off.
You only see the beautiful hair, not the Ms. Trunchbull buns you know we all rock at least a couple times a week.
The unworthiness and the just not good enough comes on strong, and it lasts long as well.
We are all so unique though, and I think that’s an important thing to remember when you are a woman and a mom.
Sure, the girl you knew in High School might have a fabulous kitchen and the latest home upgrades, but she might not have the awesome cooking skills to utilize that wonderful kitchen like you do.
And yes, the mom who’s baby sleeps 12 hours each night is beyond lucky, but she also doesn’t get those 3am snuggles that even though you are dead tired, you cherish those snuggles with your baby.
Everyone has different strengths and your mind is one of them and maybe even the most important. Think of the positives in your life when you find yourself jealous of a positive in someone else’s life. The uniqueness that makes you, you.
I am just as guilty as anyone else when it comes to comparing myself to others, it’s a habit that sure is hard to break.
Instead of feeling sorry for myself or being jealous, I am going to try to better the areas in my life that have me feeling that way.
So next time you see those flawless Instagram pics, give yourself a break and remember what you bring to the table.
Don’t be so quick to compare and know that you are enough.
You are valued, and you are just as worthy!