Being a mom feels like a full time job in itself, but last November I had to take the leap back into the working world. I work only three days a week but so far it’s been a good way to get out of the house, especially with the lockdowns going on, and I definitely think it’s helped this time around to be a little bit less difficult that the first one. It did take me a while though to try and strike the perfect balance with being a working mom. Here’s a few things that I’ve found helpful.
1. Leave work at work. I’ll give an example of this. I had an exceptionally stressful day on Friday, I was so stressed all day about something that I felt sick to my stomach and was tempted to ask to go home, but we all know with Covid going on that’s not something that’s taken lightly anymore. When I left work, I put on some loud upbeat music for my drive home, gave my husband and Baby T big hugs and grabbed a glass of wine. It took me a while to wind down, but eventually I managed to put the whole day behind me and enjoy the time with my family. Also, I don’t have a work phone that I bring home with me, but another thing I always thought was a good idea was something my mom did when she was working. She would turn off her work phone at 6pm when she clocked out and put it on a charger in her home office where she couldn’t check it again until 8am the next day when she started. It really helped her to keep her work separate even though she worked from home.
2. Cooking and eating dinner with my family. When I say I cook, I mean I am the sous chef for my husband who is a way better cook that I am. We spend the time after work in the kitchen together with Baby T in her high chair watching us and upbeat music playing. I give her some of the non sharp kitchen utensils to play with to keep her entertained, then we all sit down together at the table to eat. It’s a routine we started since I’ve been back to work and it’s probably one of my favourites because it’s a time for us to talk about our days and watch Baby T play with her food which is funnier than you would think. We have been trying lately to make sure we don’t look at our phones, a bad habit we have both unfortunately started, but it has definitely helped the conversation to be more free flowing.
3. Making the most of the weekends. The weekends are such a fun time to plan an activity together as a family and just enjoy each others company. I get to spend a few days with Baby T by myself during the week but having my husband home for two whole days has become my favourite part. Obviously right now we can’t really go out and do much, but if the weather is nice enough we’ll bundle up for the cold Ontario winter and go for a walk to the park, or a drive to pick up our online-ordered groceries. Baby T also loves mixing things in the kitchen so we’ve starting baking together, especially things that are easy for her to help us with (like three ingredient Peanut Butter Banana Cookies that I will definitely share the recipe for). Even after Baby T goes to bed, my husband and I make the most of our evenings together by ordering a late take out dinner for two, watching our favourite TV shows or playing card games.
4. Lowering my standards. Did I really just write that? I guess I did. This one was a tough pill to swallow for me, I am a very OCD person with keeping my house neat and tidy all the time. One thing I learned since becoming a mom is that it’s not possible to keep it that clean when you have baby, especially when they start walking and running around the house, pulling things out of drawers and throwing toys that you just put away all over the place. I really had to lower my standards because I started burning out very easily trying to get everything done in a day. One thing I found really helpful, was making a list of my main chores that need to be done weekly and assigning one, maybe two, to a day, so that I knew what was already done by the weekend and wasn’t running around like a crazy person trying to do it all. I still have standards that might be a little higher than a normal person’s but I’ve learned to not stress as much if I don’t meet them all the time. Even as I write this I’m staring at a basket of unfolded laundry, and a while ago I would fold laundry until I fell asleep to get it all done, but now I’m just gonna save it for tomorrow and I’m okay with that.
5. Giving myself time to rest. Like I said above, I found I was burning out pretty quickly after working, taking care of Baby T and getting her off to bed, and doing the housework. I would be disappointed and frustrated if I didn’t get everything done. I started to force myself to sit down and relax in the evenings, which looks a little bit different for everyone, but for me it means watching tv, reading a book, writing some blogs, playing video games (yes, my husband calls me a big nerd for that one) and of course, pouring a nice glass of wine.
These are all things that have really helped me to find the balance with working part time and being a mom to the point where I really feel like I have the best of both worlds. Even in a difficult time like a lockdown I still find myself enjoying both my time at work and my time with my family. If you have more tips to share I’d love to hear them in the comments below!
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This is a great post for moms trying to balance life and and being a mother. It’s tough being a mom but these tools you provided will be helpful to so many. Thanks for sharing!
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I agree 100%! Thanks so much for reading
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Aw, great post! Loved the point about leaving work at work and lowering standards. Life is so tough already so it’s good to be kind to yourself. Thanks for sharing xx
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Yesss! It’s a staple. Thanks so much for reading ❤️
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This is such a great post. I can’t begin to image how tough balancing work and home life can be sometimes. Taking time to relax is definitely one thing I struggle with too.
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It can definitely be a struggle! Thanks so much for reading ❤️
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This is such a valuable post. I myself work at home alongside being a stay at home mother and honestly it never gets easier, but I find a way. Your information here is super helpful and I will be working on being more efficient and balancing my time. Thanks so much for sharing!
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So happy it was helpful! Thank you so much for reading ❤️
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I’m sure this is really useful for so many right now. It must be a delicate balancing act. Siobhan ♡ | Vegan Babe Life
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It definitely is hard!! Thanks so much for reading ❤️
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These are really useful tips! it can be really difficult to manage work and home life. Congrats on re-entering the workforce! I am glad to hear you are finding out helpful ways to navigate it 🙂
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Thank you so much for reading our guest post! ❤️
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GREAT post! I especially loved #4. I think it’s important to re-evaluate our standards and measure of success from time to time. Sometimes we need to relax and go with the flow of life, letting go of that added pressure we put on ourselves, especially when things beyond our control arise. Be well.
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Totally agree! Thanks so much for reading our guest post ❤️
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I’m sure being a working mom is so hard! I am not a mom yet but I couldn’t imagine trying to balance work and parenting right now!
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It can be tough for sure! Thanks so much for reading our guest post!
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Love this handy post on a few simple practices to find balance between work and being a mum! Lowering my standards is tough but usually helps reduce stress. 🙂
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Same!! Thanks so much for reading our guest post Jaya!
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Very well written!!! It’s definitely a balance but so worth it as well! Moms just truly never stop working.
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I agree, we definitely don’t! Thank you for reading our guest post ❤️
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This is such a great guest post! I don’t have kids (yet), but I always find these posts interesting/useful to help me be more aware for my future. I get that being a working mom is tough, but I suppose it’s all about finding that balance (I don’t know how people do it though haha)!
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Awe I’m glad!! Thank you for reading our guest post ❤️
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These are great tips. I definitely agree with leaving work at work. It can be so easy to fall into that trap of “I’ll just quickly do this”
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Me too!! Definitely needs to be left at work! Thank you for reading our guest post ❤️
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These are fab tips, even though I don’t have kids at the moment! Definitely echo leaving work at work, it’s hard to do, but so essential to keep that work-life balance. I also love how they cook together as a family!
Thanks for sharing the guest post!
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Yesss! Leaving work at work is so important!! Thank you for reading our guest post ❤️
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