6 Rookie Mistakes New Moms Make.

~ quirkymoms486

Becoming a mom was the best/scariest experience! Being a first time mom myself I know just how scary it can be not knowing anything.

I’m here to give you a few tips today on the mistakes I’ve made as a new mom in hopes it will help all you other mamas out there!

Moms supporting moms is my favorite thing!

Believing everything you hear.

I can’t even tell you how much advice you will get while you are pregnant or a brand new mom.

Some of it is fantastic but then there’s the horror stories and the snarky comments.

Trust me when I say, you just can’t believe everything you hear. Every parent has a different experience with parenthood. Every birth is different.

Most of your anxiety comes from listening to others and your own mind so relax mama, you’ll be fine!

Not napping while the baby naps.

I was notorious for this. I felt like I needed to get EVERYTHING done while the baby napped but you don’t.

You really, really don’t!

Take that nap, or just take time for yourself when your baby naps. It’s so important and you will appreciate it in the long run!

Comparing your baby or yourself to others.

Just don’t do it. Nothing good will come of it. Each baby goes at its own pace and that’s perfectly fine. Just because your friends baby is walking at 8 months, doesn’t mean your baby won’t be up and running around soon!

So many women I know were having babies when I had my son and I felt myself comparing and it was the worst thing I could ever do.

Just because one mom looks like a superhero by getting everything done, doesn’t mean she’s not exhausted and feeling as defeated as you are at times.

Don’t compare!

Ignoring your spouse.

I feel like the easiest thing as a new mom is to get wrapped up in the baby, it’s just the most natural reaction to motherhood.

But don’t get so wrapped up that you ignore your spouse, the one who helped create this beautiful tiny human. Yess they might seem annoying because they get out of the house daily or get to sleep more but they are feeling overwhelmed too so lean on each other.

Communicate and be kind to each other.

Take time for yourself.

Even if it’s just an hour at your favorite store or 30 minutes reading a book. Or even a nice long hot shower.

Do it.

Take time for yourself as much as you can to recharge, to clear your mind, to breath.

You’ll be a better mom, you’ll feel better and you just need to do it.

Ask for help.

As much as you want to, you can’t do everything. It’s impossible.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Having a support system will be the best thing for you and your family.

Whether it’s meals being dropped off or maybe just an extra hand with laundry or dishes. The best thing I ever learned as a first time mom is definitely not to be afraid to ask for help when you need it!

I hope this helped you out mamas! And if you are a seasoned mom please feel free to leave advice in the comments below!

Always love hearing others experiences since everyone’s is always so different ❤️

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41 thoughts on “6 Rookie Mistakes New Moms Make.”

  1. I am not a mum yet, but can just imagine how you must feel when you want to do everything while the baby naps or not taking the time for yourself. Asking for help I think it’s the greatest as well as stop comparing yourself to others, we are all on a different path. Thank you for sharing x

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  2. I’ve managed to avoid all of the “advice” since I’m at home instead of at work and out and about, but my mother in law looked shocked when I told her I wasn’t feeling the baby move at 16 weeks. I guess she did. And after that, my husband kept asking me if I felt the baby. I kept explaining, it’s still early not everyone feels the baby right now though you might. Luckily this didn’t last long but I was annoyed.

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  3. It is tough to know what to expect when you have your first baby, unless you have stayed for half a year with a sibling who has just had a baby, but even then you never really know until you are in the ‘mum’ shoes. These days reading some of the amazing books and blogs leading up to the birth is a great way to learn a little before you start learning a lot.
    Thanks for sharing! 🙂

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  4. Being a new mom is so absolutely difficult and as your kids get older its easy to forget how helpless you felt during that time. I know that I let myself get so behind on sleep at one point with my son after he was born. Asking for help is not a weakness but it will help you be able to be there as a better mother in the end. This is all such good advice.

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  7. Loved this post! I never thought about the “ignoring your spouse” one! Never thought that would happen but I guess it can. Thanks for sharing these!

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  8. I was guilty of all of these and it landed me in a psychiatrist’s office. It really is important to keep up with rest and still be in tune with your partner, otherwise you will lose your mind. Having a baby is difficult but it should be a special experience – not feel like an imposter turned your world upside down. Great post!

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  9. Yes to all of these! I think it’s so difficult as parents not to get swept up in the ‘do this, don’t do that’s’ that we often hear when we first become parents. It’s hard to know what to do for the best, when you have little to no clue & you’re running on 4 hours sleep! I’m pregnant with our second now, so hopefully my experience this time around will be filled with a little less self doubt.
    Claire.X
    http://www.clairemac.co.uk

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    1. Yess to everything you said!! Let me know if it gets easier haha! We are thinking of trying for our second soon so I’m hoping I’m a little more at ease in the newborn stage the second time around! Thanks for reading ❤️

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  13. These are all great tips and I recognize myself in every one of them. I learned most of them by now, but this should be bookmarked by every mom to be

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  14. Wonderful post. I am not a mom yet, but I know how overwhelming it can be for new moms as I saw my Godchildren mom go through the anxieties of expecting their first child.

    People think that they are helping with their opinions and suggestions and of course it’s all good intentions, but what they don’t understand is how it creates more anxiety and confusion more than anything else.

    Thanks for sharing.

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  15. It’s been a long time since I was a new mom. My oldest is 25 and my youngest is 4 and even though I’ve been doing this for a while, people still feel the need to give advice and point out what I’m doing wrong. The best thing any mom can do is smile, nod and then ignore them. Every parent and child is different, there’s not one right way to parent. Thanks for sharing!

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  18. This is such a great post. I don’t have children myself but have friends/relatives who have new babies and I have found a lot of people like to make comments. Things like ‘you’re not holding the baby properly,’ ‘are you sure they’re not hungry,’ ‘you have far to many clothes on them they’ll be too warm’ and it bugs me so much. Mainly because I don’t understand why everyone thinks they have to comment on everything new parents do. They are already probably exhausted, emotional and a little overwhelmed. I try my best to remind them that they are doing a great job and I am always here to drop of some baking, pick up things from the supermarket if they don’t have time/forget something and I am always here if they want to chat.

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