It’s the end of the day.
My perfectly styled hair at some point in the day has been replaced by a messy bun.
My coffee energy has run out a long, long, longgg time ago.
My eyes are tired and as soon as I walk in the door and the baby see’s me, he will cry for me.
So I have to rush to change my clothes, rush to take the work day off of me.
I normally work later than my husband so I quickly grab my son with usually no more than a little hi to the man I promised to love forever.
I am exhausted, I have a baby to tend to, a decent meal to put on the table, and night time routines to get to.
And at the end of all that? All I can usually think of is how good my glass of white wine is going to taste when I get a chance to myself.
But I need to stop and take a breath.
I really need to learn how to do this, because the man sitting on the other side of the couch with a beer in his hand?
He’s had a long day too.
He’s came home from work and has had to quickly change and quickly wash the work day off of him so he can grab our son.
He’s had to quickly get some things done, quickly eat dinner and help with night time routines.
We are a team.
And you know what?
He deserves so much more than a quick hi when I get home and a couch buddy to wind-down with at night.
You always think your romance will never die. That even when you have kids you promise you will still have date nights and time to be alone together.
It’s so hard.
It’s hard to be a wife, and a husband, and a parent and an employee.
Life is just hard.
But you have to make it work. You have to fight for the communication, for the little bit of time when you are alone, for the date nights even if it’s one at home in front of the TV.
It’s easy to get lost in the chaos of everyday life. To think you just always have to go-go-go to feel worthy.
But you don’t, not always at least.
So next time I come home from work, tired and just thinking of that glass of wine waiting for me while I put my feet up on the couch…and maybe even rub them on my husband even though he hates it… 😉
I’m going to make sure I come home and quickly change my clothes, quickly take the work day off of me.
But slowly kiss my husband hello. Slowly take my son from him with a smile made just for my man.
Because he deserves it and you know what? I deserve it too.
And you need to fight for your marriage, even when there’s not a thing wrong with it.
Because at the end of every long day? After the kids are in bed? It’s always going to be just the two of you.
And that’s something worth fighting for.